Missy Gets Pissy: The Woods' and the Case of Double Standard Domestic Violence

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When Rihanna and Chris Brown's domestic violence incident hit the media, feminist organizations and middle-class mothers who watch Oprah were all over it. They wanted blood and Brown's testicles in a black'n blue hue. I could see it now, furious well-manicured house moms snatching their daughters' iPods and banning, "With You."

Today Chris Brown is hoping to fill up a 500-seater auditorium, to hell with Madison Square Garden.

What happens when it is reverse? In the case of Tiger Woods, absolutely nothing. In fact, it becomes a comedic moment for mainstream news and bloggers.

Not only is this double standard bullshit, it brings to question who really wants change and domestic violence to end when both genders are not held accountable for irresponsible and destructive actions.

Domestic violence against men is not only underreported, but not taken seriously by authories, or the public.

This translates to gutter-bucket women not only getting away with assault and battery, but even in some cases, them using the fact that the police will believe their side before their male companions and getting innocent men locked up.

I know several males who have dated the wrong woman and got the shortest end of any stick. A record and anger management classes that were based on lies.

Women who specialize in targeting professional athletes as meal tickets really need to take notes from Elin Woods and consider golf and hockey...well maybe not hockey, they are more likely to walk away with three teeth.

Man, Maniac or Manning-Up! Chris Brown Apologizes to Rihanna and the World

Today, Chris Brown did on television what most men would not do in private or even if they had a court order. He apologized AND accepted full responsibility for his actions. I hate the term "man-up" but in the American definition of manhood, C.B. stepped up to the plate. And you know what, it took a teenager (or someone just out of his teens), to teach a lesson of growth and humility to a lot of these overgrown (and old ass) closeted and very public domestic abusers.

In a society where celebrities are casually dismissed by the public, it was very interesting the way that C.B. was depicted by news. It was as if this serious stain on his human growth was a circus show and a platform where all could spit upon him and not serious look at the whole situation, especially, Rihanna's participation in an abusive relationship. Feminist organizations were in an uproar at what he did to RiRi, as they should've been, BUT there sudden burst of energy around this topic troubled me deeply!

If these organizations were soooo concerned with RiRi, where were have they been before with all of these other cases of black women in domestic violence?

In case you did not know, according to the American Bar Association: The number one killer of African-American women ages 15 to 34 is homicide at the hands of a current or former intimate partner. And now I hear the crickets.

I take issue with people and organizations that take advantage of unfortunate incidents and use it to blast their agendas with no real concern with the individuals.

As a result, brothers who have the potential to redeem themselves, like Chris Brown, are not able to be nurtured and taught healthy relationship behaviors and attitudes. Instead, C.B. was vilified, and on some notes, the hood rejection of the media’s biased coverage has glorified his actions. Consequentially, the black community and ALL of America's domestic violence issues (oh, lets not forget the violent legacy of slavery as a serious domestic violence issue) are not seriously worked through. As a result, women's bodies and lives are regarded as fodder for the course.

Furthermore, the extreme violence that the music industry promotes, enforces, and frankly narrowly pushes in “urban” markets is something that many organizations have not connected to this incident. C.B. who sings love ballads gets bashed more rappers and their songs that talk about violence and sexually violence acts such as “beating” a woman’s insides (womb) as a form of sexual gratification. This is the classic ape shit that blows me sometimes.

Lastly, it fucks me up that the media's coverage of RiRi’s “recovery” or rebound from the incident has her partying in New York, tattooing someone in a parlor, getting pissy-ass drunk in a club, smooching on some dread in Barbados, or hugged up with her girlfriend/assistant, oh yeah, and the new do, and in all the photos she is looking flawless and fearless with top-of-the-line fashion.

What type of message does that send to women and young girls in the similar serious process of healing? Buy some Prada and the shit will go away? Come on!

And if that is not enough, the press has given so many passes to other celebs for the same ill-reputed actions. To me, the real reason for the C.B. bashing was that Rihanna is such a money bag$ to the industry, her investors were fiery, red hot when she could not perform. And the fact that her relationship would mess up their investments before she cashed in were simply too costly. You know what I mean, all of her plastic surgery, clothes, jewelry, hair, shoes, private flights, and body guards has to be paid back 100 fold before they will dismiss her. Ask Michael Jackson...oh shit, he's dead.

The fact is, Rihanna keeps many punk-ass executives in Hollywood afloat and paid very well. These industry types were thinking, “Rihanna is much more of a commodity than that Virgina-country as coon, Chris Brown.” Ask Jay-Z, he’ll confirm this.

So, today, I salute Chris Brown for his courage. I really wish him well on his growth, but if he ever tries that again, he needs a good ass-beat down.

BTW
Here is a quick list of left hookers: Christian Bale (star of Batman) can hit his mother; Don Cornelius can smack the shit out of his vanilla candy, Robert Van Winkle (aka Vanilla Ice) can put the smack down on his spouse, Alan Panettiere (“Heroes” Hayden Panettiere’s father), Marty Crandal (Keyboard player for Shinns) can whoop on his girlfriend leaving bruises on her body, Amy Winehouse, Shannon Price (Gary Coleman’s wife), and Bishop Thomas Weaks for literally stomping fellow minister, Juanita Bynum. Blog on...EcoSi