Black Male Oedipus Complex

I don't know if it's just me, but Kanye West's song brings up memories of me dating black men who never stopped dating their mothers, and really never removed themselves off of the tit. I think I'm going to throw up as these flashes of men who had these bizarre pseudo-sexual, intimate relationships. This song is honestly raw and disturbing as it shows that Kanye is still a young boy trying to navigate his affections for his mother and his mother's affections for another male.

I never thought that a man calling his mother every night and regulating her evening activities was healthy. And real talk, I got a cousin who said his mother can never have a boyfriend. He's married with children and lives miles away, while she is alone and going through major health complications. So she's been dickless for about the last 15 years.

Interestingly, in time for father's day, I would like to thank all the men who planted seeds and left little black boys to create a manhood that was wrapped around their mother's frustrations from absentee father's and complicated dating life. And I want to congratulate all the mother's who kept their children from their father's as a tactic of vengeance due to a funky relationship with their baby's father.

All of you's who were raised by women, this is not a stab. Black women have raised millions of beautiful children. But I'm not going to front, some of my friends biggest pains are men who simply cannot let go of their mother's to develop an intimate relationship.

BTW, single mothers, your son is not your n*gga, and never will be. He is not the man of the house, and please let him be a child. But I forewarn you, don't take him anywhere near Eddie Long's church or Longfellow program.

Mama Jones Is The HBIC: "In this bonus clip from Episode 7 of Love & Hip Hop, Mama Jones is furious with curious for not giving her a heads up about the proposal!"

Shaquesha's Song . . . The Politics of Naming Black Babies

As a member of the African-American community, as a former High School and Junior High teacher, and as a former civil servant, I can't tell you the times I've had roundtable discussions around the naming of our children.

Ghetto.

That's what I used to call it.

Until I had an epiphany. Black people in the West were re-named, re-assigned, and re-categorized by European and Arabic conquerors. To seize that act of placing the energy and essence of your child, is an act of freedom. Names are linked to tones, and are linked to energy.

I am sorry, but I don't vibe to Mary. And since I was reared in SCLA where Aisha is a staple, I have a harder time remembering the Mary's and John's instead of the Shaquesha's and Dontay's.

What makes Inga, or Peter the "correct" name? This is a question I posed to myself, and discovered that many folk naming their children is their own liberation, to name, after being named by somebody else.

Naming is critical in the African-American community. And if you look at them, it is ancient.

However, a US federal judge finds some of these names, some hard to pronounce by Anglo-Caucasian-trained tongues, and has ruled that (some) mothers have lost the right to name their children.

Here is a snippet of the article, "Black Women Losing Rights to Their Children's Names" from Essence.

(DETROIT)- In a decision that’s expected to send shockwaves through the African-American community—and yet, give much relief to teachers everywhere—a federal judge ruled today that black women no longer have independent naming rights for their children. Too many black children—and many adults—bear names that border on not even being words, he said.

“I am simply tired of these ridiculous names black women are giving their children,” said U.S. Federal Judge Ryan Cabrera before rendering his decision. “Someone had to put a stop to it.”

The rule applies to all black women, but Cabrera singled out impoverished mothers.

“They are the worst perpetrators,” he said. “They put in apostrophes where none are needed. They think a ‘Q’ is a must. There was a time when Shaniqua and Tawanda were names you dreaded. Now, if you’re a black girl, you hope you get a name as sensible as one of those.”

Few stepped forward to defend black women—and black women themselves seemed relieved.

“It’s so hard to keep coming up with something unique,” said Uneeqqi Jenkins, 22, an African-American mother of seven who survives on public assistance. Her children are named Daryl, Q’Antity, Uhlleejsha, Cray-Ig, Fellisittee, Tay’Sh’awn and Day’Shawndra.

Beginning in one week, at least three white people must agree with the name before a black mother can name her child.

“Hopefully we can see a lot more black children with sensible names like Jake and Connor,” Cabrera said.

His ruling stemmed from a lawsuit brought by a 13-year-old girl whose mother created her name using Incan hieroglyphics. For more click here.

Now if white people have to vote on an adequate name, then let me vote on the recent names I have seen in the news from these white celebs.

Bob Geldef & Paula Yates three children are named Fifi Trixibelle, Little Pixie, and Peaches Honeyblossom.

Then Paula Yates has a kid by someone else named, Heavenly Hiraani Tiger Lily. 

Christie Brinkley's daughter is named Sailor Lee.

Penn & Emily Jillette named daughter, Moxie CrimeFighter.

Rachel Griffiths' kid, Banjo.

Simon Libon's daughter, Saffron Sahara.

John Cougar Mellencamp's son is named Hud.

David Reigny's son Bogart Che Peyote.

Sylvester Stallone's son is named Seargeoh and daughter Sage Moonblood.

Frank Zappa's seeds. Dweezil (son), Ahmet Emuukha Rodan (son), Moon Unit (daughter), Diva Muffin (daughter)

Bruce Willis & Demi Moore's daughter Tallulah Belle.